Dad takes his child's college entrance examination scholarship to pay college tuition
2022-08-08: [Article Link] We live in a fragmented world, and this is particularly evident after the advent of the Internet age.
Two people who are not familiar with each other can quarrel over the Internet for nothing more than a minor reason.
I've seen such a Weibo lately.
The blogger called @Cola Coast received a contribution.
The contributor stated that he had received tens of thousands of scholarships after his examination and that he wanted to keep them for himself, but his father took them for university tuition and maintenance.
The contributors believe that this is their own money, that Dad has no power over it, and that this behaviour is “so disgusting”.
In the comment area under Weibo, the front row is almost always one-sided in support of the drafters.
Interestingly, under this same Weibo, there was a general expression of understanding and support for the father by the Internet users in the transmission area.
Moreover, both parties consider the other to be unjustifiable.
East Asian parents, please stop P.U.A.?
Every kid in China has a story about money that's so simple that there's only one thing: "I'll keep it for you."
Perhaps it triggered a sad memory of the money that was being spent on school fees. Some people don't believe it.
It is certainly unacceptable that the money earned by the child is being diverted by his or her parents. If the money is not diverted, but is actually used to pay for the child's school fees, would it be more acceptable to commenters?
The answer is the same: Can't stand it.
For many young people, a scholarship is the first income in life (if you don't count the price of your life as income).
The money he earns, of course, must be used at his own will.
Many argue that this is a common disease of Chinese parents and lack of understanding of borders. The drafters have graduated from high school, at least not having reached the age of majority, and are fully capable of civil behaviour, and their parents have failed to show respect to their children:
Of course, the father of the drafter did not give up financial support altogether, and he indicated that he would subsidize the living allowance of 300 Yuan per week, which would amount to approximately 1,200 Yuan per month.
This cost of living is considered too little by the Internet:
However, taking a closer look at the original text, the contributor's scholarship is still rich, and Dad says “a further 300 Yuan per week”, so the contributor must have a monthly living allowance of more than 1,200 Yuan.
For the network users who should be at the disposal of the scriptmaster in support of this money, it is clear that the cost of living is not one of the “freedom” options:
School fees and living expenses are supposed to come from parents:
There is no need for this money to be used specifically for saving, stock-breeding, consumption, shopping, or giving parents a “good heart” – it should not be grossly interfered with and distributed by their parents.
I'm glad you're alive.
In the comments section, the pro-opinion comment side-by-side says it's the fault of the parents:
When you see such a neat attack on your parents, the relay area's netner port lives:
Usually, the main subject of the Weibo Review Area is a blogger's fan, who has similar values and can easily forge consensus on specific issues.
However, the person who transmitted the Weibo was not necessarily a fan of the blogger or possibly even a counter-critic, as was the case under the Weibo.
In the original review area, the blogger's fans generally agree that the child should be entirely free to dispose of the money, that parents should not interfere, and that parents should understand the child better and respect the child's individual freedom.
The referral area offers a different perspective from the parents' point of view: the child should also be sensitive to the parents.
More than personal freedom, the Internet users in the transmission area are concerned with the dimension of “responsibility.” They look more at the family as a complete unit, paying their children for a portion of the scholarship, which would ease the burden on parents — after all, for more than a decade, the children spent money on their parents.
Even from an individual point of view, the enjoyment of the freedom to dispose of one's “income” must be accompanied by the corresponding responsibility, so that “the responsibility corresponds”.
In the end, the money was spent on the drafter himself:
Many online users believe that what matters is not how the money should be spent, but rather how the two sides should respect each other and communicate with each other in good faith.
The attitude of the drafters towards the father suggests that communication between the parties is problematic.
A soul torture question immediately came up: would the drafter like to pay his own tuition for a scholarship if he could communicate well?
If the drafter insists that the money cannot be spent on tuition, does the parents have compulsory authority?
The question of whether scholarships should be used to pay school fees/sustainability seems to have come back around.
The one who supports the parents sees his father giving $1,200 a month and being called "slut":
The author's supporters noticed that he had been scolded by his father:
Despite the fact that both groups are commenting on an Internet message, this perception is fiercely opposing and is playing in countless Chinese families.
This is certainly not a problem for adults who are already working, but university students are at a delicate stage: on the one hand, there is a sense of economic independence, but on the other, there is no capacity for full economic independence.
How to deal with scholarships is perhaps the first course on economic independence for university students.